WOULD you consider letting your spouse sleep with other people?
This is what a west London couple decided to do, taking on the Millennial and Generation Z trend of becoming “monogamous”.
Personal trainer Linda Partick, 29, and her husband Nathan, 27, an events manager, have been together for 10 years and have been monogamous for three.
The Sun’s exclusive autumn sex survey reveals that 40 per cent of under-35s choose to be involved with multiple partners.
Here Linda and Nathan reveal why the secret to their long and successful marriage lies in monogamy…
Linda says: “We started opening up our relationship after I expressed a desire to sleep with other people, particularly women.
My husband always knew I was bisexual, but we were monogamous and never experimented.
I found it difficult to stay in a heterosexual dynamic because the more I dreamed about them, the stronger my desire for women became.
I watched a lot of lesbian porn, but in the end it wasn’t enough to relieve the urge.
In 2019, we discussed becoming “monogamous.”
In contrast to polyamorous couples, we didn’t want to have relationships with other people, but wanted to keep our sex life more open.
We decided to bite the bullet and go to our first sex party and set clear boundaries beforehand.
Those rules included: never play alone, never play with single men – only women and couples – and don’t have long conversations afterwards to prevent the development of an emotional connection.
It was nerve-wracking at first, but we both enjoyed it and haven’t looked back since.
Personally, I believe it keeps our sex life varied as we both feel fulfilled in all our desires and desires.
I believe it keeps our sex life varied as we both feel fulfilled in all our desires and desires
I enjoy watching him with other women and he enjoys watching me. But best of all is the sex we have AFTER – often referred to in the monogamous community as “reclaiming” sex.
It’s the best sex ever!
We feel so passionate after being with others and we feel truly connected – and reclaimed.
It has brought us closer than ever before – in and out of the bedroom.
Unlike most monogamous relationships where people are filled with jealousy, we discuss which women we find attractive and the great sex we have with other people – everything best friends would talk about!
There is no jealousy in our marriage and we honestly believe that this is the secret to our successful marriage.
As long as we follow the rules, we’re both happy.
We feel so passionate after being with others and we feel truly connected – and reclaimed. It brought us closer together
We now have our own podcast, @the.playroom, where we share our experiences as a young, ethnic couple navigating this world.”
Nathan adds: “At first I found it difficult to open up about our marriage. I was afraid that Linda would leave me for someone she liked more.
But I chose to trust her and supported her desire to become monogamous.
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It has actually made us stronger and now that I see who she really is, I love her more than ever.
She no longer has to suppress that whole side of herself and it has helped both of us.”